Growing up in a populous country it was always easy to be a part of the crowd and there was a merit given to it as well. Blend in, be like the others ! I still remember back in school how parents and teachers often asked us to observe certain things…like how some students study, how they dress, how they behave etc. At that time it started to seem to me as if being different may be wrong because then you would not blend in. Even in the corporate world systems and processes were imposed so to ensure that you blend in and not do something radically different and in fact, you are rewarded to be part of the culture.
However, a subtle shift began when the world became flat so if you blend in, you will survive but would you get noticed?
That’s where the conversations around standing out began. We saw some desperate attempts for people to stand out, some of these were the so called gimmicks of our times. Like when Virgin Mobile was launched in India with Richard Branson on an elephant..he did stand out! Look around you and you will find everyone wanting to stand out, this may be by the institutes they go to, the degrees they attain, their style of dressing etc., going against the norms, innovating, doing the unexpected, just to get noticed.
Earlier as a human resource my competition was with people of my generation in my catchment area and in that limited space available everyone found something to do but today we compete across generations, genders, cultures, education backgrounds…so yes standing out makes sense. So how do we do it?
My perspective is that the best way to Stand Out just might be to Fit In! Note that I am not saying “Blend In” but “Fit In”.
I have realized that, people who have the ability to adapt to different personas and fit in often get noticed more than the one who is trying to being different. Maybe today the unexpected is the expected. Across generations and cultures we all appreciate someone who makes it easy for us to connect with them. Understand and speak to me in a simple but comprehensible language, connect with my culture or way of doing things, don’t intimidate me with who you are, get off the pedestal and be like me so that I can connect with you.
Being a woman in sales for more than two decades, standing out meant, being a bit like the men in the team, using the sales french, collaborating for some clients, competing hard for targets, going out on a drink binge, etc. Occasionally I heard my team mates comment,”Sometimes we forget you are a women!”, but this made us a cohesive group. So, that’s my very own example of Fitting In to Stand Out!
If you want to stand out, when connecting with the cross functional teams, work hard to fit into their shoes so you can experience their pain.
As a manager attempt to live the life of your team member to understand the issues they face while fulfilling their KPI’s at their maturity level.
As a parent step into the persona of your child and play it by their rules of the game.
For your friends connect with them in their own worlds and the more you fit in, you will stand out!
The idea is to have more Class -“CLASS. You either have it, or you don’t. It’s not determined by how you dress, your level of education or your social standing. It’s conveyed in how you carry yourself and treat others. Some folks go to great lengths to “prove” they make the grade. Ultimately, people with class are outstanding without trying too hard to stand out.” ― Carlos Wallace